my blog from abroad
Admittedly, I’m still a newbie to this whole “real world” thing, but I’ve been out here for 6 months now and I want to relay what I’ve learned thus far to those who feel they are on the verge of the post-grad blues.
The most important thing to remember is that what you do immediately after graduating college is not that important! A friend once said,
“Sometimes you need to just exist for a little while.”
Go and exist. Do something you want to do now, in this moment, with no regard for “how it fits into your plan for the rest of your life.”
If you can be in touch with how you feel and what you want in any given moment, then you are already ten steps ahead of most of everybody else. Self-awareness breeds happiness. What a lot of people want but don’t realize they want when they graduate college, is to have fun and connect with people. Go on and do something fun. Go do YOU before you try to work for the good of others. Enjoy yourself, enjoy your youth, enjoy your energy and your body. Enjoy different types of friends from different places. Enjoy different boys, different girls, whatever!
I know you probably want whatever you do when you graduate to be meaningful and goal-oriented and well-paid and blah blah blah but in the end, what you probably want more than anything, is to feel happy and have fun. Once you stop ascribing meaning to every move you make – every little decision – you will stop putting pressure on yourself to perform to the standards of society (/of your parents/of your peers).
I know it seems like everything matters. It seems like the decisions you make directly after graduating will affect the course of the rest of your life. And hey, maybe that’s true, but maybe not! You don’t know what you’re going to want in any given future moment – you can only assess yourself in this moment.